Change often knocks at our doors unexpectedly, and for many, it comes during moments of crisis. Navigating midlife or times of transition can feel disorienting, especially when life demands both personal and professional adjustments. This blog explores the power of recognizing those moments and taking action to create balance, inspired by a heartfelt conversation on breaking limiting beliefs, embracing rest, and using tools like the Life Compass to recalibrate life’s priorities.
Many people feel the need for change, especially during midlife, when a sense of unfulfillment can creep in. But it’s often a life-shaking event that compels action. One woman’s journey began when she faced two monumental challenges—a brother diagnosed with leukemia and a marriage that didn’t feel like it would last. She shared how the painful loss of her brother put life into perspective, forcing her to ask: Is this really how I want to live the rest of my life?
This realization gave her the courage to make tough decisions, including ending her marriage. Through this transformation, she discovered how difficult but necessary it can be to confront guilt, shame, and societal expectations—especially for women.
Many women are conditioned to prioritize others' needs while burying their own desires. This internal conflict shows up as guilt—whether it’s for pursuing rest or ending a relationship that no longer serves them. This deeply rooted guilt often traces back to generational beliefs about productivity and responsibility. As one speaker reflected, her immigrant parents worked tirelessly without relying on external support, a pattern she found ingrained in her own life.
The challenge lies in breaking free from the "should" mindset. We often think, I should be working, I should be doing more, rather than honoring what our bodies and hearts tell us. True rest, she explained, is not just a reward after six days of work; it should be woven into everyday life.
In today’s fast-paced culture, the pressure to stay productive can prevent us from embracing rest. When we’re constantly working without replenishment, creativity and health suffer. Women, who now juggle professional careers and household responsibilities, often face burnout as they try to manage it all.
The first step toward healthy self-care is a shift in mindset. It begins with removing the word "should" from your vocabulary and taking a "Power Pause" when guilt creeps in. Ask yourself: Why am I feeling this way? Why can’t I allow myself to rest and enjoy activities that nourish me?
Practical self-care involves reframing rest as an essential part of life, not a luxury. Whether it’s doing art during a sermon or hosting friends for lunch, intentional moments of rest bring joy and fulfillment.
When life feels off-balance, tools like the Life Compass (also known as the Wheel of Life) can help identify gaps. This tool encourages you to break down life into key areas—such as career, health, spirituality, relationships, and recreation. Rating each area on a scale from 1 to 10 reveals where fulfillment may be lacking.
For example, while career satisfaction may be high, gaps in spirituality or health could cause underlying unhappiness. Recognizing these imbalances allows you to take intentional steps toward alignment.
Identify Your Priorities
Use tools like the Life Compass to assess which areas of life are thriving and which need attention.
Challenge Limiting Beliefs
Be mindful of thoughts like, I should be working harder, and replace them with: I deserve rest and fulfillment in all areas of my life.
Take Small, Intentional Steps
Balance isn’t achieved overnight. Start by scheduling time for activities that nourish you—whether that’s reading, art, or spending time in nature.
Give Yourself Permission to Rest
Remember, rest is not a reward; it’s a necessity. Listen to your body’s signals and honor your need to recharge.
The journey toward balance requires courage, especially when it involves questioning societal expectations and personal beliefs. But by embracing rest and re-evaluating what truly matters, we create space for joy, creativity, and fulfillment. As life inevitably presents new challenges, tools like the Life Compass provide a practical way to navigate change and stay aligned with our values.
In the end, life isn’t about ticking every box on the to-do list—it’s about finding meaning, connection, and joy along the way. What small step will you take today to restore balance in your life?
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Bev was brought up in a Catholic home, where her parents instilled in her a deep faith and reverence for God. Growing up, she attended church regularly and participated in various religious activities. However, when she went to university, her world was turned upside down. Her friends started talking about having a personal relationship with Jesus, and Bev was confused. She had never heard of such a thing, and she didn't know what it meant.
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